I love to read blogs. When I wake up at three in the morning and can’t get back to sleep, I just reach for my phone and start reading the latest thoughts, perspectives, advice, etc. from my favorite storytellers.
There is one type of blog though, that until recently, I always steered clear of.
I don’t know if it was just stubbornness or immaturity, but I realized something this morning, that I wanted to share with ANYONE who avoids reading marriage advice blogs.
Marriage advice is RELATIONSHIP advice.
Anyone with someone in their lives, that means anything to them, is in a relationship with that person.
Some relationships are more significant than others, some people have a handful, some have only one. Oh man, I feel a Pearl Jam song coming on.
I don’t know about anyone else, but I’m always thinking about how I can make my relationships with those closest to me better.
When I pray, I ask God to make me a better mom. I ask Him to make me a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister, a better servant, a better person.
Lately, I’ve been eating up marriage advice blogs and letting that advice soak into my life and relationships.
Not because I’m married, engaged, plan to be, or even dating someone for that matter. But because lately, I’ve been looking at marriage advice in a whole new light.
I’m applying it to relationships with guy friends (not because I intend on marrying them), but because I want to make that relationship better.
I’m preparing myself for the day I do meet “the one”, if it comes. If that happens, I want my marriage to be fn awesome! I don’t mind if I have to study in advance to make that happen.
Singles out there, if you avoid marriage advice articles like the plague - please rethink your reason for doing so!
Granted, not ALL marriage advice blogs are going to be helpful or easy to apply to your life, but the majority of articles out there are very eye-opening. They talk about patience, forgiveness, acceptance, being selfless and learning how to give, etc.
Marriage advice IS for single people!
When it comes to reading marriage advice blogs - I’ve been converted.
I used to have a very childish perspective on romantic relationships. I thought they were all romance and perfection and any bump in the road would be a tiny one and easy to overcome. And that I didn’t need marriage advice, because any relationship I had with someone would just naturally end up awesome and not need any real help.
I was so delusional.
We all need relationship advice. Even Disney princesses need it. There are no fairytale relationships.
Yes, I still believe two people can meet, be perfect for each other, fall head over heals in-love, and live awesome lives together, but I also believe that even those couples will face hardships and trials of faith and will need good Godly advice when that season of suffering comes.
So, whether or not I end up having an almost perfect marriage or something that is anything but perfect, I’m going to learn all I can now about how to make it healthy and successful.
Sort of like premarital counseling for singles. Hey, maybe I should start that.
(photo credit: space whale)